Going into the Rabbit Hole can be a choice to enter that necessary darkness that grief can bring . . .
. . . or, it can be a place where we go because our depression and thoughts get so destructive that we follow those beliefs to a place of hopelessness.
So, you might ask, “Is going down the rabbit hole a bad thing?” We don’t believe so — IF you have a lifeline that will be there when it’s time to come out. When you go down the Rabbit Hole — and you might — the greatest tool you can have is a strong, reliable support system. To have someone you can trust, and who understands where you are emotionally, is the best gift to yourself. Sometimes, when you are inside, on one of the shallower levels, you may learn something valuable about yourself or your emotions. Other times — when you go much deeper — you may isolate yourself and your wellbeing may be sabotaged by uncontrollable thoughts. That's when you need your lifelines near.
Much like packing for a journey, it is prudent planning to get a list of possible needs for your next excursion. Each level of the Rabbit Hole requires differing kinds of support — just as, what you would pack for a trip to beach would differ from a ski vacation. The column to the left allows you to identify the things or events that might trigger you to go into the Rabbit Hole. The column to the right are the tools and people to help you navigate back to the real world once you are ready.
WHAT THIS COULD HELP YOU WITH:
• Allowing yourself the necessary time to be with your thoughts and emotions safely.
• Communicating with your support system about your needs.
QUESTIONS YOU MIGHT THINK ABOUT:
• What are the triggers that can send me down the Rabbit Hole?
• Who can I trust to ask for support?